Just wrote a long discourse for my friend with regard to his extramarital relationship.
And here it is in all its glory!
truth be told, honestly, even if she is married or taken or whatever, it does not stop you from pursuing her. I want to believe in the so called sanctity of marriage, however I also understand there are fundamental flaws with regard to such contractual relationship. For example, nature as observed by biologist and evolution psychologists," there exists, when we were hunter and gather two class of man. The Alpha males and the beta males. Hitherto every so called great civilization, the most beautiful and sought-after women are taken by the elite or Alpha male, and the beta male which is us the mass majority of the population are either left with undesirable or infertile females. This is the basic human instinct at its core. What we have now is a marriage between two persons, and the two people are expected to take care of their children usually two offspring, make a living, usually the man, but as we progressively modernize also the women. The couple are expected to be wage labors and provide for the family. However, this is the modern model, throughout history very wealth man had multiple wives, and the wealthy and powerful paid using hard currency the service of the beta male(which is us) to work in the his household and be his manual labors and take care of his children and cu-combines. Hence, That is the traditional and historical model and perhaps the biological genetic model of human family relationship.
I want to point out that the family relationship which we have today is fundamentally dysfunctional. 50% of marriage ends in divorce. Children are traumatized by the bickering of their caretakers, left abandoned many of those children does not grow up to become a functional member of this society. Children including so-called adults turn to hard drugs or alcohol to suffocate and hide their discontent. This or what we have now, the so-called family unit, it is nothing but a mass hallucinogenic mushroom that depraves and gives false hope of happiness to all that seek it!
I believe in order for the family unit to become happy, satisfied and functional, fundamental shifts must be made.
I believe some of the most important issues that must be addressed are.
a) Man’s lack of understanding of woman and vice-versa.
B) The one man and one women model is fundamentally flawed because it is fundamentally impossible for the human caregiver to provide emotional and financial support to themselves and their offspring, due to over work, over exhaustion.
C) Perhaps maybe, we are meant to have multiple partners, we may and should share our most special bond with that special someone who we hold dear the most. However, both partners should also realize that their exist fundamental forces in our biology which pushes us to seek extramarital relationships.
D) having multiple partner also solves the issue of over taxing of the 2 person family model, however the multiple partner model also have its own caveat, which I will leave out and reference at another time.