I’ve gotten mad playing poker, plenty of times. Not so much lately. But when I was struggling, I really did. I never lashed out at anyone in chat. So I don’t understand why people do that. The closest I came was saying something like “dang it”. I try to keep it light hearted and funny, like that time I went up against KK with KT, all-in, and when he flipped up his cards, he immediately flopped trips, and I just said “oh”.
Behind the keyboard, at various points in my journey, I may have been cursing up a storm, or pacing around to work off my angry energy.
None of it helped my play. It was an unavoidable part of my learning process. I had to go through thousands of hands to figure things out, experimenting and observing, trying to figure out how to win reliably. Losing big hands still happens, but I’ve seen it happen enough times by now that it doesn’t bother me. Maybe because I’ve seen it before. Maybe because my win rate is up enough by now that I know that I’ll continue to make chips as long as I keep playing.
What’s been great about it is that as I’ve improved at my decision making, I’ve also been able to gain control over my emotions. I strongly feel that the two go hand-in-hand. When I’m playing without a lot of emotion, I’m playing better poker, and when I’m playing better poker, my emotional keel is riding evenly. Poker is great for emotional health, self control and so many other things related to mental well-being. It’s perhaps my primary reason for playing.
I also like winning a lot. So, you know, it’s kindof a toss-up.
But I think that not everyone gets this out of poker. I get it because of my approach to the game. I don’t know how to convey to people how to have the right approach to life. It’s not really my business to tell them, anyway. But I’d like more people to come to the discovery as I have.
So to answer your question: I guess I don’t understand why people lash out, either, other than to say that they’re not as evolved in their development of their game.